How do you detox from a bad end of a friendship?

Many friendships form between certain people due to the circumstances surrounding them. It could be a mutual hatred for a job,  a shared dislike of someone’s attitude, or a shared joy of certain hobbies or interests. In my life I am extremely lucky to have been able to form bonds with a lot of people. Obviously, many bonds are stronger than others. Overall I am grateful for anyone who takes the time to invest in a friendship with me. Life is such a short stream of consciousness that anyone who comes into your life to enhance the experience for the better is a welcome addition.

We all make certain types of friends. There are casual friends that we don’t speak to for months but when we happen to see each other, we simply pick up where we left off. There are work friends who we do everything with during the week, yet don’t talk to on Saturday and Sunday. And there are our closest friends who would probably hide a body for us no questions asked.

Then we have those friends who we keep around because we remember good times we had previously.

In my year of forward change, I have learned quickly that maintaining a friendship that is barely chugging along on the fumes of nostalgia is just no good for you. So what happens when a friendship with that person ends badly?

Do you retaliate against their negativity? How do you move on?

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I suck at flirting, and I’m awful at taking compliments…

In an attempt to make my blog more personal and less about news you can find elsewhere, I think it’s time I started opening up about my life experiences. When I started blogging a few years ago, it was just me making observations on my Myspace page. And suddenly I began to notice that a lot of people were actually reading what I had to say.

Empowered by this admitted ego boost, I migrated to WordPress where for a while I had a pretty good run of continuous blogging and constant updating. But then life got in the way. And when it did, I just lost all desire to write on here.

But then it dawned on me. The reason I didn’t enjoy it was because my blog had morphed into a place that was rarely about my personal experiences.

So here I am today. Talking about something that I noticed about myself today.

I fucking suck at flirting, and I am awful at taking compliments…

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2009 is officially coming to a close…

It’s that time of year where we always ask the question out loud “Where did the year go?”

2009 wasn’t at all a perfect year. It was rough for many. We are in a recession. It got harder for a lot of us to make ends meet. And people were either unsatisfied with the work opportunities available, or frustrated with their jobs, but grateful to even be working when most weren’t.

Even the celebrity Grim Reaper put in a lot of overtime this year.

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Under any other circumstances, I could have been dead right now.

Pretty morbid title for a post no?

It seems like no sooner than I restarted this blog I had to take another pause to deal with another personal issue. Unfortunately on Saturday I was involved in a car accident. I’m fine. My brother who was in the car with me is fine. The other car involved is fine.

So if everything is fine, why the need to even worry? I’m after all fine.

But you know what, even though I walked away unharmed, the memory of what went down will always stick with me.

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New Music Video: LeToya featuring Ludacris “Regret”

The video to LeToya’s 3rd single “Regret” was finally released.

While there is nothing particularly special about the video, the song is so hot that the video isn’t even a factor. She’s looking good though.

As for the song, LeToya’s vocals are on point. Ludacris’ verse is simple, witty, and doesn’t steal any of LeToya’s shine. Tank’s production is tight. And the lyrics are pretty solid.  Usually songs about dead wrong guys play it a little too obvious to the point where the lyrics are cliche. On this song you can relate to what she is singing about (girl or guy). And despite who she is singing to, the chorus resonates with everyone who gave someone swag and in turn they got gassed and ran with it.

They always do regret it in the end.

Hopefully this will be a big hit for her. My question though? Why wasn’t this the 1st single?

My Review of “Precious: Based on the Novel Push by Sapphire”

I was initially reluctant to even see the film “Precious: Based on the Novel Push by Sapphire”.

I kept reading/hearing about how gritty and realistic it was. I heard the scenes of violence were raw and leave you uncomfortable and cold. So of course, why would I even want to hand over my money for an ultimately depressing experience?

Well I ended up seeing the film finally, and when it ended I wondered? Was this the same great and gripping film I kept hearing about?

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“Video FAIL”

What… The… Fuck?

This is the best they could come up with? This nonsense? It looks cheap as hell for starters. Beyonce dwarfs Gaga in size. The choreography is weak. And it isn’t at all sexy.

It looks like if the “Soldier” video had an unprotected three-way with the “Check On It” and “Diva” video while watching a Rihanna video marathon on MTV Hits.